I expect there is an official term for this type of OCD but I’m not aware of it. Basically it’s intrusive thoughts which occur when asking other people to do things for you.
for example: Say I asked my husband to go and pick something up from the shop for me, I would then have intrusive thoughts about all the things that could potentially happen to him on the way or whilst he’s there and I would then feel responsible for those things: I asked him to go, he’s only there because of me. Therefore I am responsible for anything that happens to him during this time.
This is another way OCD can isolate you very successfully, not only are you scared to go out yourself because of your OCD thoughts and anxieties, but you also become scared to ask anyone to help you in any way in case something happens to them, making you feel more and more alone. OCD is such a bully, it wants you to be alone and suffering in your mental torment forever. It can also make you come across as indecisive as you internally struggle with whether to get someone to drop the kids off at school or pick something up from the shops on the way home.
Unfortunately I don’t have an easy answer for this one either, sorry. You just have to be stronger than it somehow.
- Distraction is probably a good method, ask someone to do something and then do everything you can to keep yourself busy.
- Having the knowledge that the other person has their own free will and that you cannot control everything. I think that’s a big one with OCD and anxiety, you have to accept that you cannot control or know the outcome to everything and actually you probably wouldn’t want to given the choice.
- Practice your mindfulness, be in the moment now and not in the unknown future worrying about things that will probably never happen.
- Ride it out, anxiety can only be at it’s peak for a limited time, your body cannot sustain it for too long so breath and know it will pass.
- Don’t catastrophise – which you obviously have if you’re in this situation.
- Talk to someone, it could even be the person you’re worrying about.
Hopefully some of the above can help, I work on these things daily and slowly things get easier but it’s a long old road and some days it’s definitely tougher than others. Remember you’re not alone and as always
Stay Strong xxx