Nowadays this is something I’m finding a little easier. As you get stronger and better at dealing with your OCD you also start to know that the low days will pass and that you will feel happier again. It’s not always easy to believe it when you’re in the depths of a low, I know that for sure but I also know it to be true.
Over the years I’ve had long periods where I’ve felt I’ll never feel happy again, I couldn’t see ways out of the thoughts and when I’d get over one another would come swooping in and take me down again. How I got through this part I’m really not sure, I think I spent a lot of my late teens and early twenties in quite a depressed state which I self medicated myself through with alcohol. I had rubbish job after rubbish job which I didn’t seem to be able to lift myself out of and I just didn’t look after myself in anyway. In fact I am sitting here now thinking; how did I pull myself up and out?
It definitely wasn’t an overnight fix and I definitely think it coincided with meeting my now husband. He gave me something worth fighting for (might sound a bit lame but in all honesty it’s true). He valued me and so I started to value myself more, no one else had ever done that in the same way. I have to say this was only the starting point though, I still got a lot of dark periods. When you’re feeling low the world can feel pointless, everything can feel dark and you just want to curl up and block out everything.
So how do I pull myself out now? I have to say I don’t have the massive lows as often anymore but when they do come it’s always good to have a go to plan, so here’s my attempt at one, which can hopefully help you guy’s too.
So depending on how low you feel the options may vary a bit but here goes:
- If you can get out of the house – fresh air and socialising are really important
- If that’s too much write a list of all the things you have to be grateful for; health, family, friends, the roof over your head, food in your stomach, re-read it whenever you feel low.
- Watch a feel good movie
- Talk to a close friend/family member, if they’re free see if they can come over
- Find someone who will give you a hug – this always feels good
- If you have an animal pet it, this I am told helps to release feel good hormones and reduce stress
- If this isn’t the first time you’ve experienced a low then remember that you do come out of these periods. If it is your first one, trust that it does pass.
- If you’re feeling like you can’t cope, talk to a medical professional.
- Treat yourself to something you enjoy, always treat yourself with compassion.
If you are a friend or family member looking for advice on how to support someone going through a low this can be tough but always persevere they need you so much, even if they’re not showing it (which they probably won’t be).
I hope some of these things can help, they’re just my personal list and like I have said before I am not a medical professional, just someone recovering and trying to share something that may help someone else.
Stay Strong, you are not alone xxx