Life is full of up and downs and I think we probably all know this, so why then do we give ourselves such a hard time on the days we aren’t quite ‘feeling it’?
As a mother of two, who works part time and is studying as well I often feel like I’m not quite doing everything up to my self imposed ‘standards’. I beat myself up if I’m not cooking from scratch or I’ve forgotten to buy the present for Jamie’s birthday party on the weekend but ultimately I just need to give myself a break.
You’re not going to ‘nail it’ every day no matter who you are I promise! We all need to remember this, there will be days where everything goes to plan and you feel like you’re winning at life but there will also be days when nothing seems to go your way and for some reason you’re feeling a bit crappy about yourself or life. You know what that’s OK, that’s what makes you human and the world is not going to fall apart if you have an off day.
I think it’s very easy to catastrophise the bad days and forget about the good ones. We are very often our own worst enemies and we have to stop doing it and be kinder to ourselves, I know I definitely do!
How to help with the bad days
- I know on the bad days it’s incredibly hard to think positively so maybe do some prep in advance for when they hit.
- Write a list of the good things in your life so you can read it through when you’re feeling low
- Make a list of the things you have achieved and if you do something that makes you feel good write it down so you can re visit it when you feel down.
- If you’re fatigued/burnt out then allow yourself to rest and don’t feel guilty about it – I’m terrible at this – you are allowed some down time.
- Talk to people, I’m sure they will have a much better opinion of you then you do of yourself on a bad day, they’ll help you remember how amazing you are.
- If you’re feeling mentally low then get out of the house and get moving, exercise can normally help shift a bad mood.
- Don’t look on social media and compare yourself to others – this is a highlights reel which is not achievable.
- Socialise – loneliness is your worst enemy and will only make you feel worse
- Know what makes you happy and do it even if you don’t feel like it, this is exactly what I do when I feel low now. Even if I don’t feel with it mentally I make myself physically go through the motions, so I’ll go for a walk, eat something I enjoy, talk to someone, socialise with friends, exercise, eat healthily, write blog post. Basically all the things I know help me and eventually one of them will start to work.
- Be kind to yourself – give yourself a hug, you’re doing great.
I have had low periods for as long as I can remember and some times they last for several days but you know what I’ve learnt from experience, they always, ALWAYS pass and if you do the right things they’ll pass quicker.
I hope today at least you’re all having a good day,
Stay Strong xxx