Now this is something that most of us probably do a lot of the time but it is very important, especially when you’re recovering from a mental health problem to try to put yourself first. This isn’t always easy when you have a family but you have to remember that if you’re not 100% then your family will suffer too.
Taking on too much can cover a wide variety of things from work related stresses to other people’s problems. Whatever you’re doing always try to get your recovery and wellbeing at the forefront of your mind and if that means you have to be a little selfish from time to time then you what, that’s fine.
If you have a friend who just sucks all the energy from you because all they do is moan then don’t see them so often. If you know people are taking advantage of your good nature by asking too much of you then talk to them, say you haven’t got the time/energy, they probably don’t even realise they’re doing it.
It is OK to be a bit selfish at times and do a few things for just you. I know as a mum you are always putting everyone else first and your needs seems to come right at the bottom of the list, if at all but it is important to try as mental health problems can spiral out of control very quickly.
Something I’ve been doing a lot recently is not eating well enough. I make sure my little boy has the best food, homemade and full of goodness and then I find myself eating his scraps or having made nothing for myself at all. I am so concerned he should eat well – as I know how important that is – but then I don’t do the same for myself!
Then what I find is mid-afternoon I have no energy and I get tired and grumpy and ill more often – I seem to have endless colds at the moment – and this is because I am not caring for myself the way I know I should. I did comment on this a couple of blogs back – OCD Letting things slip – but if I’m honest I don’t know if I’m doing any better recently.
So once again, a note to myself – and anyone else in a similar position – to take better care of myself and that it’s not selfish to do that.
Stay Strong xxx